Friendship to me is when everything about you is in question and yet your “friend” remains steadfast in their support and belief of who you are and who they’ve come to know over the years of friendship together.
Over the years, like everyone, I’ve had friends come and go. Yet what remains are some of the most meaningful friendships I will probably ever know. Maybe its a “guy thing” but I can be out of touch with some of my friends for years on end and the moment we reconnect, it’s as though no time has passed and we simply pick up where we left off.
Having had the same handful of best friends for the vast majority of my life, I can without a doubt, rely on my history with them to shed light on any situation that may show me in a negative light. Well that and a little common sense.
One thing I really appreciate about good friendships are the ones that say it like they see it.
I use to believe that when people turn on you it was the fault of the b**** who told them, yet I’m not subscribing to this anymore. I now believe that sometimes it simply takes awhile and certain circumstances, to reveal a person’s true nature. A prime example was someone who knew me for well over 30 years and yet, on the turn of a dime, decided that a proven liar/criminal was more credible and worthy of her support. Even to the point of shelving her common sense that was screaming something altogether different. I guess the most I can say in this regard is…”don’t get too attached as she’s about to take an extended vacation in a CR penitentiary.”
As if it’s not obvious enough, my friendships have been tested to the hilt over particular events happening in my life yet the best part is that the vast majority of my friendships remain intact and stronger than ever. This defines true friendship for me and sometimes I feel insecure to the thought of whether or not I measure up to those who’ve done so much for me through this time. For that I’d like to say a big THANK YOU!